What I do
I help identify automatic patterns and chose new ones, stop trying the same unsuccessful things.
I help client to increase her presence through four approaches by O’Neil (2007): identifying and sustain goals, mange ambiguity, increase tolerance for reactivity and use immediacy.
I ask probing questions about the whole person, feeling, being and doing to elicit the true and right stories. (Egan, 2014)
I ask how clients are experiencing the coaching and the relationship, what is or not working for them. I invite to try solutions and practice, to get immediate reward or feedback by experimenting, to implement small steps at a time.
I start sessions with contracting on the topic and goal, asking what is better from last session, reviewing progress and experiences.
I end sessions with a positive wrap up on the experience of the session, summarizing with “start, stop and continue” practice invitations, to conclude with a clear way forward.
I present Prochaska’s stages examined by Bluckert (2006, p.97), Kant’s paradigm and ladder of inference to help the client’s awareness about where she is, what behaviours can be reinforced or changed.
I provide client time to think and identify what are her needs, wishes, motives, expectations, values and drivers to build goals, commitment, alignment and success.
I talk about learning and leadership styles, ask questions to assess the client’s and invite her to acknowledge others and experience the impacts.
I create possibilities to look differently at limiting beliefs, underlying issues, supporting allies and resources, best fit strategies that do not remain ideal wishes.
I contract and re-contract to make sure client are in alignment with what they want and need to allow behavioural, cognitive and emotional learning.
I apply Kolb and help the client to go through the whole cycle and strengthen areas where development will be beneficial.
I help build adaptability and assertiveness, looking at responding to reality instead of reacting to appearances, depersonalizing disagreements, looking at crisis as opportunities, changing perspectives.
I enable the client to focus on what she can control, have the choice of their thinking.
I offer immediacy and real/role play or rehearsals to practice and reinforce new habits.
I help reaching clarity through metaphors, scaling, looking at role models, strengths questionnaires, EI assessments.
I assume more differences than similarities to remain curious and I go back to basics regularly to reconnect with what really matters.
I use Time to Think and SFC approaches.